Who’s the weaker sex ?

There were two news reports in the newspapers today that are interesting reading and makes us sit up and think.

Around 3000 harassed hubbies have come together and formed an association and are going to organize a conference of “Harassed Hubbies”. Wow, we always thought that women were always harassed. Whenever we talk of harassment, physical relationship, abuse, breakaways or morality its always the men who are seen as the “bad boys”. If one were to glance the TV, or browse the newspapers or go through the litigations filed in the Courts of Law, it’s always the men who are allegedly “guilty” and rarely do we point fingers at a women.

The other news report is of a lady filing a complaint of “Rape” against her jilted lover. Understand that the lady was in a “live-in” relationship with a guy for about six months. As long as the going was good, it was a “live-in” relationship and “consensual sex”. When the going got bad and they had to part, it becomes a “rape”. What an irony? One can understand that a “rape” can happen one night, but how can it happen for 6 months. It certainly takes two hands to clap, isn’t it?

Recent reports have indicated that 40% of the marriages in Metro India are heading towards divorce. Interestingly most of them break up within the first year itself. It certainly takes two hands to clap.

With the globalization of the country, influence of the western world, education and financial independence of women and the influence of the media and the daily dose of television serials, women can no longer claim to be “satya savitri – all virtuous”.

The press, the police, the administration and the society at large are quick to pounce on the hapless “man” and pronounce him guilty even before he is heard and the investigation is completed.

The Indian society is heading towards a cultural change and the pressure to remove the artificial mask (that all of us wear) is increasing day by day. Morality and virtue are a thing of the past. It’s all about opportunism and opportunistic relationship in any relationship.

After all this one wonders “who is the weaker sex” !


Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant.

The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, ‘Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.””Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.”Yes, it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut way all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”I reflected on what Jerry said.

Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.””Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.'”I knew I needed to take action.””What did you do?” I asked.”Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breathe and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them. ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.

I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything. You have 2 choices now:

1. Crib about your daily life and what are you doing and be unhappy . . .

2. Enjoy every moment of your life & give in your Best . . .

Keep Smiling Always…

Take control of your destiny with your mind – Law of Attraction

Even before I ever knew anything about the Law of Attraction, this was (is) my motto ‘Your vision (which also constitutes your thoughts) WILL ALWAYS determine your destiny’. You may think my destiny is ordained by me alone, no I don’t think so. It is faith, which is the substance of things hoped for and the EVIDENCE of things not seen. Faith in motion or doubt is equal to the Law of Attraction. In believing this, I believe faith is tangible. What’s the secret? All successful people know the secret. They apply their thoughts to the success they are gaining. The Law of Attraction doesn’t care if you are thinking positive or negative, it acts accordingly. Your thoughts will manifest, this is the Law of Attraction. This is The Secret.

Now you know, so what next? Take a deeper look. Create your destiny with your mind? According to this documentary, yes. You think debt, you will keep debt. You think wealth, you will gain wealth. You think happiness, and that is what you will get. If you ponder on your sorrow, the Law of Attraction doesn’t care, you will continue to be sorrowful. Emotions play a major role here too. What you think, what you feel and what manifests, will ALWAYS be a match. That is something powerful and says a lot. By shifting thoughts, you can change the course of your day. Your emotions are fed by your thoughts. So when you are emotionally unstable, you can create psychological havoc. You have control, use your mind. Faith?

Yes you can say this is faith. Thinking things into existence. Focus on what you want and desire and think upon that, this is The Secret. You ask, you get an answer, so receive. This is where emotions play in as well. If you want something that you don’t see how you will get, receive it and it’s yours.

Apply the Law of Attraction to what you want, you don’t have to understand it, simply receive it. Some may say it’s the ‘universe’ who ‘answers’ these wants (thoughts). I believe it’s either the blessings of the Lord or a curse. You can make your life a happier experience, just be grateful. When you are grateful, the Law of Attraction recognizes your positive thinking and will result in a positive outcome. To the contrary, complainers, will always be miserable. You have control of your day.

Happiness is a choice, so focus on it. Make pictures of things you desire and focus on them. Be grateful for what you have and receive what you want. Never ponder on the current situation, because the Law of Attraction doesn’t care and like I said before, will act according to your thoughts. Your thoughts will manifest. If you desire to be with someone, focus on that. Don’t focus on loneliness, the Law of Attraction will keep you lonely. If you want to ‘get out of debt’, don’t focus on ‘debt’, focus on money and how much you ‘will’ have. This is simply having faith or doubt and with that being your mindset, is the Law of Attraction. Attraction is NOT always a good thing.

By applying the Law of Attraction positively verses negatively, I am putting faith into action. Knowing this, I can help others. Also, in knowing this, I learn to help myself so that I can help others. Control it, by thinking it and then receiving it. Simple as that!